Speaking Point: "You may call this the moral issue of 'cruel intentions'. I had the pleasure of working with Lisa Lampanelli recently (who is featured in my
new music video, "Q&A") and she is known for some pretty controversial speech. In fact, I was recently unfriended on facebook by a very popular club DJ because she did not like the fact that I defended Lisa online. Why is some speech hateful when people say it and other times it's okay? It's all in the intent.
Speaking Point: So why do gays love her and the anti-gays hate her? It's all in the intent of speech.
Speaking Point: It's the perfect example of how words, such as "fag" can become so polarizing, yet their intent is not malicious in any way.
Speaking Point: Although Lisa is known for spewing that word out frequently, she's perhaps one of the biggest gay rights - and advocates I've ever met.
Speaking Point: When she uses the word - she takes it's negative connotation - and makes it positive by injecting it as a positive adjective. She may say 'I met the gays' or 'he's a fag' and it doesn't mean 'he's less of a man'. It actually means - 'he's wonderful'. And her actions back up that intent (she's currently in the running to be the next Celebrity Apprentice, and her charity of choice is none other than the GMHC).
Speaking Point: In the case of two straight men - or even gay men - using it negatively, their actions have harmful or bad intentions. This takes the word back to a hurtful place, and therefore causes controversy.
Speaking Point: It's important for the gay community to remember who their true allies are, and watch their moves.
Speaking Point: For actions truly speak louder than derogatory words."