Speaking Point: Online dating is no longer the last resort approach for people unable to find someone to date! Online dating is securely woven into the fabric of the "singles scene" and a very popular way to have access to your "potential suitors".
As online dating becomes mainstream, you must become savvy to the process and the culture to become effective. For all of us who have met our loved ones online, the process can be as frustrating and enduring as the more antiquated process of meeting people in bars. You need to know what you are doing or you're going to be very disappointed.
Here are some Tips to be effective as you navigate through the experience of finding that "special someone" online.
Speaking Point: 1. STAY SAFE ONLINE...Always follow the rules of engagement no matter how excited you are about this new prospect. Communicate with people you haven’t met live only through the sites email address system. Make sure that what you are reading in his/her emails is consistent with the content in his/her profile. Don’t give out your cell phone number until you have met in person and feel comfortable. Always meet first at a public location for a brief period of time. There is always time for more later.
Speaking Point: 2. CHOOSE A GOOD PROFILE PICTURE FOR YOUR DATING SITE...Profiles with pictures receive 10 times the views than profiles without. BUT pictures need to represent you truthfully. No pictures when you were ten years younger. No "Glamour Shots" as if you naturally look that way everyday. Take a picture or find a picture that gives the first impression that most represents what you want us to know about you.
Speaking Point: 3. WRITE A COMPELLING PROFILE...One of the most frequent mistakes people make in creating a profile is developing an image of who they are based on what they think the OTHER person is looking for. You want them to look for you! Be confident in who you are and that someone out there...the right someone, wants you as you are! So your profile needs to be a truthful glimpse of the real you. So if you live nowhere near a beach, why would you ever write..."My perfect first date is a romantic walk on the beach."??
Speaking Point: 4. WRITE AN ENGAGING FIRST EMAIL...Your first live contact with your new friend is through your first email exchange. Be engaging and conversational. Try not to interview your friend. Be interested, be interesting, show energy and excitement. It’s not your first date but it IS your first contact!