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Speaking Point: The trend is particularly pronounced among the most highly educated women, nearly half of whom have incomes higher than their spouses, according to the most recent federal data. Speaking Point: Some men like this shift because it relieves them of some of the pressure to provide for their family financially and allows them to spend more time with their children. Speaking Point: It is becoming more and more of a possibility that we will have a female President for the first time in American history. That would mean that for the first time we would have a First Gentleman instead of a First Lady. As unusual as that may sound, having the wife as the primary breadwinner and the husband taking more responsibility in the home and with childcare is becoming more common in America today. Is this a problem? If it is, what can the Clintons and you, if this is your story, do to have a happy and successful marriage?
Dr. Sheila Forman is both a clinical psychologist and attorney and comments often on the psychological and legal issues affecting our society today.
Speaking Point: Women as the primary wage earners are a big shift. While it is still true that on average men working full-time still out earn women working full-time, as we have seen the trend is shifting and for some marriages it's a problem. Speaking Point: However, as a society, we still seem to favor our traditional roles. Men and women seem to be happier in marriages in which the husband earns more money and the woman does more of the housework. Nevertheless, the good news is that statistically, marriages in which wives bring in the most income are not significantly more likely to end in divorce. Speaking Point: For more information on Dr. Sheila Forman please go to her website at www.DrSheilaForman.com. Speaking Point: If you are in marriage where the wife earns more than the husbands, here are some tips to help your marriage thrive: Talk and listen to each other; Be each other’s biggest cheerleader; Show your admiration for each other; Acknowledge how each is contributing to the well being of the family; Focus on what’s important to both of you. Set short, medium and long-term goals together. Speaking Point: Since 1980, the proportion of couples in which the woman is chief breadwinner has been increasing. In 1981, 16 percent of women out earned their spouses. In 2000, it was 22 percent. Today, it's 30 to 40 percent. And research predicts that by the year 2030 the average woman will out earn the average man.
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