Speaking Point: An article in the Huffington Post asks the question, "What age is appropriate to dress your child as a sex symbol?"
Little Emma's mom, Hope, answered, "I decided to do Marilyn Monroe for Emma's 'outfit of choice' because she was a sex symbol and I just thought it would work great with Emma and her personality.”
"Yeah, sexy and I know it," Emma said.
The broader question about this article is whether it’s healthy for parents to script their child’s identity based on their own agenda for their child?
Speaking Point: 1. Parents infringe on their child’s identity development when they script their child based on their agenda.
Speaking Point: 2. Whether it’s deciding that a sex symbol most accurately represents your child’s 3-year old personality, or you decide your child should be a lawyer because they argue with you all the time; creating a "picture" of who your child is, based on how you see them, alters their experience and their view of themselves.
Speaking Point: 3. Over time, this can cause a child to go underground; providing the parents they are looking for and being someone else "underground.”
Speaking Point: 4. Parents need to create a safe Family Culture where children can explore who they are without the agenda of anyone else interfering with their experience.
Speaking Point: 5. Children need to feel safe from "judgment" of their parents so that they can learn who they are, practice who they are, and create their own identity of who they are.
Speaking Point: 6. Parents have the responsibility to teach, guide, coach and love their child through their child’s own experience.