Speaking Point: Celebrities, throughout history have always both mirrored the trends of the culture we live in and often set the trends we find ourselves in. Famous couples have always set themselves apart from the "rest of us" by their misbehavior and we have all enjoyed watching. But something new is happening in the world of celebrity couples and their relationships that is a refreshing change from the typical ugliness we have become so addicted to watching in this country. Celebrity exes are finding ways to remain friends!
Wow...no more are we only seeing the power couples trashing one another in the tabloids. No longer are we hearing them spill the dirt on one another!
Sure, there is still plenty of that flying around, and always will be I’m afraid, BUT there are also stories of couples that ha
Speaking Point: Well, first before we talk about anyone specific, lets understand the nature of intimate relationships, and how they can transition into something else without destruction. We all understand about the physical compatibility. And we all understand about the social and cultural compatibility. But there is also something I call the "true personal world view" compatibility. You see, this is the compatibility factor that truly blends people beyond the obvious. The true personal world view is how you see the world and how you operate in the world you see. It is here where couples thrive and it is here where couples die.
Speaking Point: If you and your partner see the world and operate in the world around you in a way that compliments one another, you have a high probability that you and your partner will have an easy time living life together. The same is true with couples who break up. Why? Because couples don’t typically break up over seeing the world completely different, but usually over only one or two views that are just not resolvable. Many couples today and...many celebrity couples today, are setting this new trend because they seem to understand this dynamic and have found a way to honor the break up over the things that aren’t resolvable and still value their ex for the things that still compliment their relationship.
Speaking Point: Take, for example Justin Timberlake and Cameron Diaz. This is a couple who seem to have maintained their friendship after the break up of their relationship. Why? Because they both see the value in something they had between them while honoring those issues that forced them to say goodbye. They are both the consummate professionals and actually have made a movie together, AFTER, their break up!
Speaking Point: What about couples like Demi Moore and Bruce Willis? These two have remained such close friends that during Demi's divorce to Ashton Kutcher, Bruce has reached out to Demi for support. This isn’t an attempt to get back together. He is married to someone else and they are expecting a baby. But Demi and Bruce found a way to respect one another and be in each others lives for the sake of their 3 daughters and move past their differences.
Speaking Point: Denise Richards and Charlie Sheen have recently been seen on a "modern family vacation with their two children and Denise's third by adoption. They too as a couple have a clear understanding of what doesn’t work between them however, they also understand their shared world view... that their children need to feel a sense of family with their parents.
Speaking Point: Courtney Cox and David Arquette have committed to being "cooperative co-parents” to their daughter Coco, and in this last season of Dancing With The Stars, Courtney and Coco were seen often in the audience cheering on David. Both express the sadness in their lost love affair but acknowledge their shared view of what they want for Coco... two parents that are supportive and friends.
Speaking Point: Vanessa Williams and Rick Fox are another example of this shared commitment to their daughter, Sasha, and are seen at all her events together. Ryan Philippe and Reese Witherspoon have two children together. Although Ryan took his divorce from Reese with great sadness and went into seclusion for awhile, he has been quoted as saying that no matter how much grief there is and how many issues they had, they both are finding their way to a friendship for their two children, Ava and Deacon.
Speaking Point: And then there is Ashlee Simpson and Pete Wentz, whose public break up was all over the tabloids and Internet. Yet they too refrained from public negativity and focused on the pieces of their relationship that they still valued rather than the pieces that were broken. Their official comment on their divorce was this..."after careful consideration, we have made the difficult decision to file for divorce. We remain friends and deeply committed and loving parents to our son, Bronx, whose happiness and well being remains our #1 priority. We ask that everyone honor our privacy as we navigate this next phase of our lives."
Speaking Point: And that’s the lesson these wonderful people teach to all of us watching.... Relationships are a process in life and as we transition out of one kind of relationship, it doesn’t mean we cannot transition into a new kind of relationship. It takes the courage and maturity to understand where we see things the different and where we see things the same and honor both of them as we create the new rules and boundaries of "the next phase of our lives" Well done Celebs!!!!