Speaking Point: As women, we can be so hard on ourselves placing huge expectations on our performance, and expecting perfection out of our every action. We see it everyday in our personal lives and on TV. Women eyeing one another up and down and comparing everything from their bodies to their bank accounts. The real housewives series spotlights friends, family members, and cast members comparing husbands, houses, children and personal talents.
Speaking Point: When we constantly compare ourselves to others, it’s like we’re in a never ending race to be the best. Where is the enjoyment and joy? We can never let our guards down and just rest because there will always be someone who will show up looking better or having more.
Speaking Point: Striving for perfection in ourselves or expecting it from those we care about is one of the quickest ways to separate ourselves from our natural well being. To be the best at all things is impossible, so trying to attain that goal is a recipe for failure. Competition is a self defeating game that robs women of their peace of mind and sense of self. Fearing that we are not enough or we can’t measure up is at the root of most disorderdepression and anxiety, addictions, or self destructive behaviors like cutting or promiscuity.
Speaking Point: The need to appear all together brings out the worst in us. It can cause us to become overly controlling—micromanaging the people and events in our lives. We can become aggressive and overbearing, bull dozing over anyone who gets in the way of our “win”.
Speaking Point: The solution is to tame the inner critic who is a harsh and unrelenting task master. When women recognize this part of themselves, and they develop a more loving, accepting inner voice they will then feel at ease in their skin and experience life in a whole new way.