Speaking Point: Keeping your marriage alive after children is not always an easy task. As the woman focuses on caring for her children, it’s easy to forget not only her own needs, but those of her husband as well, making him feel neglected. It’s important to remember that the couple is the foundation of the home and crucial to the happiness of the family. Here is what I suggest to keep your marriage alive and happy:
Speaking Point: Always take care of your appearance, just like when you were dating. You must always try to look stylish, sexy and attractive to your spouse. Don’t make excuses for neglecting yourself. Looking your best says you respect yourself and your spouse. This also helps to keep your romance alive
Speaking Point: Make an extra effort to look great when your spouse comes home from work. If you both work, then try to freshen up before your meet up after a long day. You must look appealing: be dressed nicely, smell good and have fresh breath. Take a few minutes to prepare yourself to see your spouse. For stay at home moms, be certain to look extra nice when your husband comes home.
Speaking Point: Plan a date night at least once a week and honor it, unless your children are ill or have a special event from sports or school to attend. If so, reschedule your date night immediately. Plan at least one vacation without the children per year. Take time for romantic one-night getaways at a local hotel a few times a year or as often as possible.
Speaking Point: Making time to be intimate and make it a priority. Find ways to help each other overcome fatigue; such as a nice bath, a glass of wine, or a massage. Sexual intimacy keeps the relationship alive and happy. Wives should wear beautiful sexy lingerie and her husband’s favorite type of negligees to bed. Husbands need to look nice for bed too. Make your bedroom a romantic place.
Speaking Point: Always try to speak to one another respectfully and kindly. Remember to thank one another, even for the smallest tasks such as bringing you your coffee in the morning or taking care of the house, or working hard. Don’t take anything for granted.
Speaking Point: Tell your spouse how much you love them. Be affectionate as much as is possible and appropriate. Have good manners and social graces with one another. Honor one another by being polite and considerate. Give each other sincere compliments. Men, open the door, pull out the chair and come get her out of the car.
Speaking Point: Be a good listener and pay attention to your mate. Take 15-30 minutes at the end of each day, after the children go to sleep to talk about your day. Make that time sacred.
Speaking Point: Remember that men want to be respected and admired. Women want to be cherished and adored. So do what it takes to make your spouse feel important. Cook his/hers favorite meal. Bring home flowers just because. Keep the excitement alive with love notes and special surprises.
Speaking Point: Pay attention to the things that are important to you spouse. Make their happiness a priority. Your children will benefit from your loving home.