Speaking Point: As an out gay man who thought of suicide constantly in high school it makes me sad to hear that anyone would want to pray the gift of being gay away. This concept of not loving yourself, not loving who you fundamentally are as a human being, is tantamount to abuse and self-inflicted torture. There is a shift that needs to happen in this conversation. We need to start honoring sexuality and gender as part of the brilliant diversity that is God’s creation on a large scale. On a small scale we as individuals need to start respecting our sexuality. Gay or straight, people often disregard this sacred part of humanity and treat sex as something shameful. It’s the shame that we are taught and the disrespect of our selves that creates the need to “pray away” who we are.
Speaking Point: The gift of gay – Being a gay man is a gift. I haven’t always understood that but as I get older I see this gift more clearly. LGBT people are the middle-sex. We may be of male or female gender but our spirit and consciousness has the ability to understand both gender perspectives.
Speaking Point: Healing – As a Hypnotherapist my work is enriched by my orientation. Both men and women feel comfortable and safe to open up to me. It is easy to fluidly blend the masculine and feminine. The vast majority of my clients are heterosexual and the middle ground I come from allows them to honor their true nature. As gender roles become more fluid I’ve found it refreshing to help heterosexual men become more comfortable with their fatherly nurturing instincts and heterosexual women become more comfortable with their strength and ambitious desires.
Speaking Point: Gay men help Straight men be more straight – From life experience I’ve discovered that my being gay has helped the straight men I come in contact with be more straight! Just being myself around straight men has allowed these guys to live more freely. These men no longer need to hide themselves and what they enjoy in the world out of fear of being ridiculed. I know straight guys that now outwardly enjoy clothes, music of all kinds, chick-flicks, food, culture, etc. One friend even always liked scarves but was afraid to wear one. I bought him a “masculine” scarf and showed him how to wear it.
Speaking Point: Where is the love? – Praying away anything means there is no love. God supposed to be about love and when you remove all the fears and opinions and judgments then what is left is love. As we are God’s creations and as God is who we are at our core then love is all there is. When you love yourself you are loving God. Praying away God makes no sense at all.
Speaking Point: Affirmative Prayer – Prayer is often used as a Santa Claus wish list; praying that something is bestowed upon or taken away from us. This leaves the one doing the praying in a position of powerlessness and inferiority. Affirmative prayer focuses on abundance instead of lack. It affirms the beauty and abundance of the Creator and our connection with this abundance and God. It moves the one praying into a state of power and alignment with truth and love.